5 Radically Different Stress Relief Tips Every Mom Needs to Hear

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You’ve probably heard the typical stress relief tips like eating better, meditating and exercise…and feel guilty about not following them. What you really need is to radically shift your mindset—so you can live the life God intended you to.

Read on if you want to learn five refreshing ways to be transformed…and if you want to dig even deeper, be sure to check out my free email course on radically different stress management, StressLESS.

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I get emails all the time about how hard mom life is.

From different parts of the country and world, from families of all sizes and lifestyles, I hear you. You don’t get enough sleep. The kids’ needs are so demanding. Your marriage is suffering. You’re lonely; your home is a disaster; you wish you could pray more, but you’re so completely spent that you can’t focus for more than a few seconds at a time.

To sum it up, we are all dealing with the reality of stress in the modern world.

It’s one of the reasons I completed a certificate in Christian stress management coaching a couple of years ago. We’ve all got this ugly thing hanging over our head—stress— that few of us really know how to deal with.

But since over 75% of visits to the doctor’s office (at least in the U.S.) are stress-related, we’ve got to face the fact that maybe our society isn’t equipping us with the best ways to cope. As a result, our health, our faith and our relationships suffer.

If you pick up a pamphlet with secular stress management tips, you’ll probably see the typical checklist of the things you should be doing: Take breaks. Exercise more and eat less sugar. Meditate.

One thing they forget to mention is how to deal with the panic you feel when you realize that these are just more things to add to your to-do list.

That’s why I decided to take a different approach when it comes to stress. I’ve developed a 5-part biblical framework with stress relief tips for moms that are not things to add to your to-do list. Rather, they’re a way to shift your perspective and be empowered to live your life fully the way God intended you to.

Want to dig deeper? StressLESS is a five-day email course that will help you shift your mindset.

5 Stress Relief Tips You Need to Hear

5 Radically Different Stress Relief Tips Every Mom Needs to Hear

1. Repeat After Me: Stress Is Not Evil

When you start to care about something—be it trivial like what to eat for dinner or more substantial like a loved one’s illness—your body responds physiologically. Your attention and your senses are heightened. Adrenaline and cortisol are released. Your heart beats faster; you mobilize your energy and start to sweat. You’re motivated to act and might be anxious or excited. 

You may have heard of this defined as “fight or flight,” so named because these reactions help us respond in an emergency.

The problem is, when your body is in this state too much and doesn’t receive adequate recovery time, you can start to suffer. Chronic stress leads to a host of complications including anxiety disorders, addictions and a weakened immune system.

What many people don’t know is that stress has benefits, aside from enabling you to respond quickly. It can also help you reach out to others and grow in your knowledge and wisdom. 

Related: Why Stress is Actually Good For You

Repeat after me: stress is not evil. It just has to be understood and properly managed. When I first started studying it, it dawned on me that God has known this and has been sharing this with us all along: 

Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope

Romans 5:3–4, NIV

With this shift in mindset, you can stop stressing out about stressing out (because really, that in itself is quite stressful!).

2. Let Go of What You Can’t Control

Perhaps you’ve heard of the Serenity Prayer, attributed to Reinhold Niebuhr:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

Courage to change the things I can,

And wisdom to know the difference.

Someone once told me that the only things we really have control over are our little daily decisions. And over time, these decisions add up and help determine the course of our lives.

This is an important stress relief tip for moms to recognize because sometimes we spend way too much time agonizing over the things we can’t control, when we could be a lot more productive focusing on the things we can.

I call the things you can’t control stress environments and events. These include things like your workplace, your relationships, where you live, death, divorce, job change, new marriage, new baby or a move. In some cases you can remove yourself from these stressors, but sometimes you can’t.

But let’s talk about the things you can control. In essence, these are the things that either help you when you’re responding to stress, or hurt you. I call them aggravators and stabilizers.

Stress aggravators are poor responses to stress and unhealthy practices in your life.

Stress stabilizers are conditions and habits in your life that can minimize the impact of stress.

It takes work, but focusing on these two things can make you much more resilient to the stressors in your life you can’t control.

3. Take Control of Toxic Thinking

I’m going to talk about one of the aggravators that can wreak havoc on your stress levels. You could call it negative thinking; I think it might be more accurately described as believing the enemy’s lies.

I have to be perfect.

I need to be more like that other mom.

I need to read my Bible and pray in a certain way in order to be a good Christian.

These lies come subtly and are easy to consume. We turn them over and over in our heads until we’re paralyzed and stressed out.

There’s a better way, and this stress management tip comes straight from the New Testament:

Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Philippians 4:4–9, NIV

You have control over your thoughts. It takes a ton of work, but you can actually retrain your brain to focus on what’s true, noble and right.

Related: 10 Bible Verses for the Stressed Out Mom

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4. Be the Boss of Your Boundaries

My tendency as a mama is to take the weight of the world on my shoulders. Not only do I worry about my kids and making the perfect life for them, but I worry about pleasing everyone around me—extended family, church family, work demands, you name it.

But when I’m not careful, I can skyrocket my stress level with this powerful aggravator called poor boundaries.

When you have poor boundaries, you take more ownership than you need to in stressful situations. You try to fix problems that aren’t yours. You have a hard time saying “no.” Not only does this steal other people’s freedom to own their own problems (even within your own family!), but you can start sliding down the slippery slope of resentment and blame.

And of course, through it all, stress hormones continue to pump through your body. 

Proverbs 14:10 says, “Each heart knows its own bitterness, and no one else can share its joy.” While you can empathize with other people’s problems, coach them, and pray for them, you can’t and shouldn’t own them. Do you see the difference?

Better boundaries are something I have been working on for years in the way I spend my time and where I invest my heart. If you have difficulty setting boundaries, you’re probably not going to get an instant fix, but you can make huge strides in the right direction!

You can start working on this anytime. Say no to the responsibilities that aren’t yours to take.

Related: How to Set Biblical Boundaries as a Christian

5. Choose Rest When You’re Stressed

God invented rest and practiced it on the seventh day of the creation account we read in Genesis 1–2. He made his day of rest, called the Shabbat, holy, or set apart as something special. He sat back, celebrated the completion of his work, and enjoyed what he had made. Later, he commanded his chosen people, the Israelites, to do the same at the end of their workweek.

I’m guessing most of my readers (myself included) wouldn’t consider themselves to be bound to the Shabbat laws of Torah. But…maybe we’re missing out?

I identify adequate rest as a stabilizer when it comes to your personal stress level. We’re better equipped to respond to what life throws at us when we’re better rested—not only physically, but mentally and spiritually too. 

We need rest. Otherwise, not only do we get run down, but we also forget about our Creator who wants us to celebrate his creation with him. 

How to Put These Stress Relief Tips into Practice 

I’ve found that what is truly restful isn’t always convenient. Sometimes you’ll just have to “let it go” when the work you so desperately want to finish has to sit another day. Just remember that, for many centuries, people have trusted God to provide when they chose not to work and to honor him instead.

I hope you’ve found these stress relief tips helpful whether you’re a mom or really any human with responsibilities. When you’re mindful about managing your stress, not only do you equip yourself to be a better parent and spouse, but I believe you also give more space for God to work in your life.

To learn more, I’d encourage you to sign up for my free email course, StressLESS, in which you’ll get five lessons over five days.

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