Ever wondered if it was okay for you to get more “me time” but you’re not sure if you actually need or deserve it? You’re not the only one. Read on…
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“I’m struggling with not enough time for me right now.”
I got this message from one of my readers recently when I asked moms what they were wrestling with. I shook my head in understanding…because it’s a sentiment I’ve heard again and again.
She went on: “I feel like a brat saying that, but in the hustle and bustle of motherhood I sometimes feel like I’ve lost myself.”
It’s an issue I think so many of us relate to. We know we should probably be taking better care of ourselves—“filling up our tanks,” so to speak—so that we have more to give.
But then we feel guilty…because isn’t a life of self-sacrifice the Christian way to live?
There is a lot of secular self-help information out there about stress relief, finding yourself and meeting your full potential.
You may have heard the analogy of the oxygen mask; on a plane that’s losing air pressure you’re supposed to put your own mask on first before helping someone else, and the same applies with your personal energy.
That’s all fine and good in theory, but…are these conceptions of “me time” and “self-care” actually Biblical?
And what about practical questions like:
- Is it okay for me to be on my phone when I’m with my kids?
- Do I have to get up early to read my Bible?
- Whose needs come first: mine? My husband’s? My kids’?
- Do I really need to suck it up and go to church when I’m feeling so exhausted I can barely move?
- Can I say “no” when someone asks for my help? (Really, not just in theory?)
- Can I spend money on something frivolous or indulgent and not feel guilty?
It’s tricky territory, striving to live a life that imitates Christ but doesn’t leave you so drained that you end up feeling exhausted, spiritually empty and resentful.
I think about this a lot, and I think that while self-care is essential for Christians, it might not be in the way you think.
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