Sometimes I feel like the best lessons learned in marriage come out of the most heated arguments.
A couple of years ago, when my youngest was a toddler, I went out to do some Christmas shopping. My husband stayed home with the kids. It was nice to have a productive afternoon by myself…until I discovered when I came home that it was an hour past my baby’s naptime. She was still toddling around, wide-awake.
I was livid. Three kids in, and my husband wasn’t aware that a small child needs an afternoon snooze? The whole rest of the day would be thrown off!
We had a bit of a bump over our (lack of) communication.
Unfortunately, it wasn’t the first or last time I’ve been resentful because I expected my husband to do something that he was unaware of. It’s kind of our thing.
And that’s not the only communication problem we have when it comes to taking care of the kids. At other times, I might not even have a specific expectation other than hoping he will notice my exhaustion and initiate picking up some of the childcare duties. Or, I might just crankily power through my fatigue because I feel guilty asking for his help.
I know I’m not the only mom in the universe who has struggled with these issues. I hear this question regularly from friends: How can I get my husband to help more with the kids?
This is a tricky question to navigate because each marriage and household has a different dynamic. But I decided that in order to give a fair answer, I’d ask my husband what he thought! Here’s the advice we came up with for wives who want more help with the kids.
How to Get Your Husband to Help More with the Kids
To read the advice, head over to my guest post at Equipping Godly Women: How to Get Your Husband to Help More with the Kids
Do you wish your husband with help more with the kids? What do you need help with most?