“How do you guys prevent your kids from being selfish?” I asked our friends earnestly. Specifically at that moment in time it seemed like our two boys were becoming a little too obsessed with electronics, their Legos, and everything material. I was hoping for some strategies to help them be at least a little less self-obsessed.
They laughed. “Let us know when you figure that one out!”
Maybe you’re laughing too.
Poor naïve little me—I was a little surprised! Up until this point (my oldest was then five), I expected that whatever parenting dilemma I had, it was only temporary. Kids eventually sleep through the night; they don’t stay in diapers or drink bottles forever; they can be taught to control tantrums.
But selfishness? Do most adults even overcome that?
This conversation happened a couple of years ago at a parenting class. I remember it because it was one of those defining moments when I realized: This problem is BIG. And we will be battling it for a long time…
I have the honor today as a guest over at Lizzy Life. Elizabeth Laing Thomson is a writer I admire tremendously—plus she has phenomenal parenting tips. Finish this post about cultivating compassion here.