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10 Easy Bible Verses for Kids To Improve Behavior

May 22, 2018 by Gina Poirier 2 Comments

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I don’t know if it’s a girl thing, but we’ve got a case of the whiiiiines in my house.

My daughter is four. Her two older brothers certainly had issues at this age, but they were mostly involved destruction and throwing epic temper tantrums.

The whining though? The scope of it is new to me and it just blows my mind.

The other night I was exhausted from constant speech correction and was lamenting about it to my husband. (If you’ve never been in a logic match with a preschooler, I hope you appreciate your life). As I worked through my frustration, I realized that I was lacking an essential piece of the parenting puzzle.

Being Scripture-based.

Don’t get me wrong; my kids know their Bible stories well. It’s just the practical application part that we can slack on. This was further evidenced by the fact that my daughter recently said something along the lines, “God says it’s my turn.”

So we’ve either got a prophetess or I need to be a little more grounded, right?

I’ve learned that discipline just goes so much better when we rely on God’s Word rather than our own logic and incomplete wisdom.

10 Easy Bible Verses for Kids To Improve Behavior

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I decided to round up several Bible verses for kids that are behavior-focused so that I can be more on my game. And then I thought, hey, why not share the love? Because certainly I’m not the only who needs a little backup, right? These verses can apply to any age, but they are easier to understand for kids ten and under. They are also fun to memorize and if desired you can add simple crafts or object lessons…

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What are some of your favorite Bible verses for kids?

To scripture-based parenting,

Memory Verses for Kids: 10 Simple Scriptures Families Can Learn Together

April 24, 2018 by Gina Poirier Leave a Comment

Learning memory verses can be a big part of cultivating your kids’ faith. Read on to learn about how our family has been practicing this skill and get a great list of scriptures you can memorize together. You might also like this post: 10 Easy Bible Verses for Kids To Improve Behavior.

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The high-pitched wailing of my five-year-old daughter pierced my ears one morning.

(I was resting and trying to fend off a nasty chest cold, but of course, mamas don’t get sick days when the kids are at home.)

She burst through my bedroom door with tears flowing freely, pleading her case before me about how her brother was treating her unjustly.

I did not have the energy or the will to be judge and jury at that moment of which Legos go where. But it was either suffer through that or suffer through screaming, so I trudged down to the playroom.

God must have been feeling for me at that moment.

While it was tempting to yell at the offending parties and just shut down the whole operation, I opened my Bible and read a scripture instead:

Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. —Colossians 3:12

I talked about each of the words and asked my kids if they knew what they meant. They quietly listened and thought about it. Then we calmly talked through the situation and resolved the argument quickly with very few tears.

The passage came to mind because the kids and I memorized it last month, and it was very familiar to us. This was just an opportunity to show them how to put what they had learned into practice.

That’s one of the reasons I think there’s so much value in memorizing scripture with your kids. When they’ve already stored biblical truths in their memories, it makes your job easier as a parent when you’re teaching them how to live.

They already know the why (i.e. God’s people treat others with kindness) so you can just show them the how (i.e. not screaming at your brother).

Finish reading 10 Simple Bible Verses Kids Can Memorize over at Equipping Godly Women, which includes practical memorizing tips!

Want a printable list of these memory verses for kids? You can download it from my collection of free resources for Christian moms.

Do you do memory verses with your kids? What helps your family learn them?

Cool off Mom Anger with 5 Simple Tips

March 20, 2018 by Gina Poirier Leave a Comment

Nashad Abdu

I don’t know any mom who doesn’t deal with “mom anger” on some level. Not a single one.

Children are the most demanding, relentlessly needy, stress-inducing people I know.

Whether you come home to them after a full day of work, or if you are with them for most of the daylight hours, the constant wrangling can be exhausting. It’s no wonder we can blow up on a moment’s notice!

Acting out of anger is one of the things I feel the most ashamed about in my parenting when it strikes. And it’s one of the hardest things to fix.

My friend Brittany has a great post about Four Ways You Can Prevent Mom Anger Before it Starts, and that is where I recommend you start if you find yourself repeatedly dealing with mom anger.

However, even if you’ve got some great prevention strategies in place, you’ll probably still have instances when you lose your temper anyway.

But don’t worry! You’re not perfect, and all hope is not lost. Here’s what to do when, despite your best intentions and efforts, you blow up at your kids.

Read the rest of this article at Equipping Godly Women: 5 Ways to Get Mom Anger Under Control

You can also check out this video as I explain how I use these tips in real life.

Do you struggle with mom anger? Which of these strategies do you think will be the most helpful for managing your anger in the moment?

Yes, You’re Failing at Parenting (and Why That’s a Good Thing)

January 18, 2018 by Gina Poirier Leave a Comment

I killed the family fish last weekend. It has felt like one of my worst moments as a parent.

I was trying to do everything right. Fifty percent water change, wiping off the algae. Temperature regulation, gentle handling, water conditioner. Check, check, double check.

Rudy, our adolescent betta who hadn’t even grown his long fins yet, apparently didn’t like it. He died in protest within three hours.

I was devastated.

Being a pet murderer is bad enough as it is. But I thought of my tender-hearted boy, James, who was sleeping along with his siblings at the time I discovered the untimely death. I thought of the way his shoulders shook when he sobbed at the loss of the last fish, who had been our companion for many months.

I had failed him as a parent. My incompetence was making him suffer.

Senjuti Kundu

These moments, as much as I try to laugh about them in retrospect, are humbling. As I tossed and turned in my bed, thinking about the dead fish in the tank, I fought away tears. I couldn’t help but wonder…if I fail at the little things, how can I handle the big ones?

I know I can’t be a perfect parent. We all do. But maybe instead of trying to brush off my shortcomings, I should embrace them head-on.

I’m failing at parenting. All the time.

From losing my temper to fish murder, I fail. I wound tender hearts and chip away at their innocence. And yet in spite—no because—of this, we are all the better because it reminds me that I am not Jesus. What a relief.

It was morning. I gently lifted poor Rudy’s tiny stiff body from the tank into a small plastic cup. He had been full of life just 12 hours before. I dreaded the next step: waking the kids and starting the day with the sordid news. My husband Marc wanted to participate in the bathroom flush funeral before he left for work.

“Why did he have to die?” James asked tearfully. But not sobbing.

Because Mommy is stupid and she killed him. Did I say that out loud?

“God decided it was his time,” Marc said candidly but gently. “We don’t know all the reasons.”

James handled this loss better than the last one. (They’re tougher than we think, you know.) A few tears fell, hugs were exchanged, and he acknowledged the way of the world. He’s starting to understand death, suffering and the consequences of the fall, whether they result from my mistakes or someone else’s.

Incidentally, after a call to the pet shop, the diagnosis was that I had overdone the tank cleaning. As hard as I had tried to get it just right, I had removed too much of the bacteria in the environment, and the fish had gone into shock.

Imagine that. Death from being too clean. It’s not the first time that trying so hard to attain purity on my own strength has backfired.

As hard as I try, I can’t protect my kids from my shortcomings and failures. But through my weaknesses, God reveals a little bit of himself.

My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.
—2 Corinthians 12:9

James didn’t blame me. I held him tenderly as we cried. My mistake revealed truth and brought us closer together.

And that is how God works through our brokenness, that his strength, through love, might pull us closer to him and one another.

Heaven forbid we should ever get a dog.

Your turn: do you ever feel like you’re failing at parenting? How can you change your perspective?

Positive Parenting Tip: 10 Behavior Words for Preschoolers

August 4, 2017 by Gina Poirier 4 Comments

Interested in ways that you can introduce more positive parenting into your home? Here’s a tip: equipping yourself and your child with a robust behavior vocabulary is a great place to start, starting from their first words! If you’d like a free printable, you can grab it in my free resource collection by clicking below.

Once upon a time, I saw a video somewhere on social media that went something like this:

Father of young toddler: “What does a cow say?”

Little girl: “Moo!”

Father: “What does a doggy say?”

Little girl: “Woof! Woof!”

Father: “What does a duck say?”

Little girl: “Quack! Quack!”

Father: “What does Mommy say?”

Little girl: “No, no, no, no, no!”

Poor mommies. It just comes with the territory: constantly setting limits and saying that two-letter word. It’s no wonder that “no” just happens to be one of the first words that enters a young child’s vocabulary.

If you’re a parent, hopefully “no” is not the only word you’re using. The problem with “no” is that it only takes you so far. Not only does the kid eventually wizen up and start fighting the “no” with the formidable “why?”, but it ultimately leaves you with a void.

This is where a positive parenting strategy can be super helpful.

Unless your kid is content sitting with their arms crossed and smiling (a highly suspicious behavior in my opinion), they have to direct their energy elsewhere whenever they hit a limit. And unless you’ve taught them where to direct that energy, they ultimately end up committing another crime. You say “no” again, they get frustrated, you get frustrated, and on and on and on you go all day until your husband comes home and you hand them over so you can go collapse and order pizza because there’s no way you’re cooking dinner after a day like that.

Not that I’d know what that’s like, cough cough.

We’re three kids into this parenting game, and I think we’ve pulled together some pretty good positive parenting tips to avoid spiraling out of control like this too often. Instead of focusing on the “don’ts,” everybody is happier when we spend the majority of our time on the “dos.” The way we do this is to provide our kids with a positive behavior vocabulary from an early age. When they misbehave, they know how they need to be focusing their energy. And when they do behave, we can praise them for it!

These words also help our kids form good habits, which they’ll hopefully take with them as they grow older. If you want to implement some positive parenting in your discipline strategy, start these behavior words young!

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Positive Parenting Tip: 10 Behavior Words for Preschoolers

Obey

Sound a little intense for a two-year-old? Think again. This is one of the first words we taught our kids in matters of discipline and it’s often one of our first go-tos when dealing with behavior. We expect them to obey. This is different from the popular word “listen.” Listening has to do with paying attention, while obedience has to do with responding appropriately to authority. Our kids are expected to obey parents, babysitters and teachers the first time they are asked (in case you’re wondering, they can ask questions or request alternatives when appropriate, and there is grace involved. It’s not an authoritarian thing).

Gentle

Kids are rough little creatures. They yank on you and walk all over you and other adults/children/animals. From the time my kids were interactive infants yanking on my hair, I would firmly pull their hand away, say “gentle,” and guide the hand in demonstration of what gentle looks like.

Kind

I think we all use the word “nice” a lot, but “kind” as well as “loving” more specifically address how children should treat other people. Sharing and taking turns is to be praised as kindness.

Friendly

I really hope my kids have good manners when they grow up, and those habits start now. We talk with them about making eye contact, smiling and greeting people. You can help shy kids be “friendly” with a wave or a verbal “hi.”

Respectful

This is such a great word, I wish I’d started it sooner! It applies to quite a lot of discipline situations, from talking back, to manners, to kids cleaning up after themselves. It’s also an expansion of the obedience concept once they are a little older.

Thankful

Oooooh this is a tough one. It gets to the heart of a lot of attitude problems. While kids might not naturally feel or act thankful, getting them in the habit of saying “thank you” and not complaining is at least pointing their hearts in the right direction.

Joyful

Like “thankful,” this word is tricky because it addresses a heart issue—but then again, don’t they all? This is a good word to use when kids are just having a bad attitude for no good reason (good for adults too!). It helps them focus on the positive instead of the negative so they can enjoy their surroundings, not to mention make themselves more enjoyable to be around for everyone else.

Patient

Okay, this was the word of the day once on Sesame Street so I know I’m validated here. A two-year-old might ask you for crackers 5,247 times in 30 seconds and you repeat this word over and over again. It’ll sink in eventually (and help remind you too!).

Self-Control

In our house we say, “no fits” whenever a tantrum starts. To counter the “no” in that statement, the kids learn to control their emotions and express them appropriately by being introduced to the “self control” concept. Admittedly this is quite difficult for a two-year-old, but for a four-year-old who has been practicing deep breathing and counting backwards whenever he gets worked up, “self-control” is a big accomplishment that is highly praised.

Helpful

Who doesn’t love a Mommy’s helper? From the time they were little all of my kids beam with pride anytime they figure out how to pour a glass of water or get their own cereal. I’ve heard that they eventually morph into teenagers and that being “helpful” doesn’t hold the same weight in their minds. However, I’ve also been told that if they habitually helpful when they are young, it’s not a battle when they’re older!

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Faith for Kids: 3 Ways To Help Them Make It Their Own

July 27, 2017 by Gina Poirier 1 Comment

If I had a dollar for every time I saw some alarming headline about how today’s youth is leaving the Christian faith in droves…I’d have my kids’ college paid for.

But it’s true, and it’s alarming. Faith for kids, especially once they’re out of the house, is challenging in our current cultural climate.

I don’t have to read the latest statistic to know it. I can see what happened to many of my friends who said they were Christians in high school and college. And I can see what’s happening with some of my friends’ older children now.

They don’t need or want church, the Bible or anything related to it.

The faith of their parents didn’t stick; the kids never fully made it their own.

If you’re a Christian with kids in the home, you are almost certainly asking yourself in this climate, “What can I do to help them choose their faith over the world when they’re grown?”

I have a somewhat unique perspective on this question, as I was not raised in church. I chose to follow Jesus when I was 19, over 300 miles away from home, in an urban university climate that was somewhat hostile to the idea.

So when I think about how I want my kids to make the same choice, I don’t have the childhood experience to rely on.

My husband is quite the opposite in his experience. His journey began at a much younger age and he grew up immersed in a vibrant culture of faith in his extended family, homeschooling community and church.

In him I have the unique opportunity to observe the full picture of raising godly kids, as someone who never had that experience herself. As my husband leads our family spiritually, he explains why we do what we do, and I can see the fruit of those choices in his relationship with his own parents.

Our kids are going to make their own choices, and as it is clear in the Bible, they can choose to leave the faith even if we do everything right. (Likewise, as in my case, kids can have little to no biblical instruction in the home growing up and still turn out all right!)

But at the same time, I believe there are several things we can do that will help our kids make their faith their own—for the long term.

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Faith for Kids: 3 Ways To Help Them Make It Their Own

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Want more Christian parenting tips? Check out these related posts:

10 Easy Bible Verses for Kids To Improve Behavior

Spark Your Kids’ Love of The Bible with 3 Simple Habits

How To Help The Perfectionist Child

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5 Ways To Spend More Quality Time with Your Kids

March 17, 2017 by Gina Poirier Leave a Comment

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It’s funny how you can spend all day with your kids and yet feel like you didn’t connect with them at all. This is especially true when you’re busy getting stuff done with multiple people in the house: homeschooling, housework, chauffeuring, ministry, etc. And while you might technically be “together,” you’re missing out on a very important component of healthy parent-child relationships: quality time.

It’s different than just being together; if you’re familiar with The 5 Love Languages, it is defined as “giving someone your undivided attention.”

That’s hard to do!

But as my kids get older, I am becoming more and more convinced just how important it is to have quality time with each of them. Even if quality time isn’t the primary “love language” of you or your child, it gives opportunity for uninterrupted communication and to build memories. When they look back on their childhood, these are the times that kids are going to remember.

Here are practices our family implements to ensure we’re getting that quality time, both one-on-one and all together.

5 Ways To Spend More Quality Time with Your Kids

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Kids Fighting? 3 Strategies to Strengthen Sibling Relationships

February 18, 2017 by Gina Poirier Leave a Comment

I was vacuuming the other day and really enjoying the “quiet” that comes with that task. You know what I mean: by drowning out all the noise in a busy household, I could get a few minutes of mindless peace.

Or not.

Slowly but surely above the low, loud hum, I heard an unmistakable crescendo: screeching, wailing, screaming: “STOP IT!!!” There were crocodile tears and desperate tugs on my arms. I had to referee my kids’ fighting over how to properly put away the cards in a game of Memory.

I try not to remind myself that I did not go to college for THIS.

In my finest parenting moment ever recorded, I just stared at them, blinking. There may have been some mumbling utterance of, ”No one cares, just put the cards away,” before I turned the vacuum back on and tried to use the power of wishful thinking to make it stop.

I’m sure you know as well as I do that wishful thinking isn’t a constructive way to parent, so of course I eventually had to back track and help them talk through this truly agonizing situation.

It’s a battle all parents face: kids fighting, sibling rivalry, and just outright meanness between your offspring. You wonder how such diametrically opposing figures could possibly have come from the same womb.

Kids Fighting? 3 Strategies to Strengthen Sibling Relationships

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Become a More Patient Mom with These Simple Practices

November 18, 2016 by Gina Poirier Leave a Comment

Becoming a mother makes you grow in all kinds of ways you don’t expect. In pregnancy, childbirth and those early precious moments, your physical endurance is nothing short of miraculous. Your capacity for love expands with each little soul you add to your family. I’ve also personally experienced a significant softening of my heart and sensitivity—you would have never called me a sap ten years ago, but now? I will always cry watching Inside Out. Every. Time.

But hands down, the most difficult challenge I’ve faced? My own capacity (or lack thereof) for patience.

I’m not naming any names, but I have a child who is brilliant but moves slower than a 90-year-old. He appreciates life. He will savor each bite of food—no rather, each movement of his jaw when he chews. He will stop and smell every petal of every flower, examine the minute details of each school assignment so that he can finish it flawlessly, and take a full hour to put a folded shirt into a drawer. He is a genius…and I go crazy trying to get him to move…his…feet.

And then there’s just the everyday mom stuff we all deal with. The kids’ noise, the fighting, the slowness in their understanding of how to function like normal humans. Everybody asking two seconds after you say you’re going to pour them some milk when their milk is going to be ready. The phrase “be patient” comes out of my mouth no less than 354 times per hour (is there a sign on me that says “food on demand” or something?).

“Be patient,” I say…as my sanity slowly unravels.

By the grace of God, however, I am slowly being transformed from someone who is always on the move to someone who waits, from someone who thinks and talks quickly to someone who listens.

Do you struggle with patience too? (Is there anyone who doesn’t?) While I’m not the psychological/spiritual/emotional expert on this topic, some practical strategies have helped me tremendously.

Become a More Patient Mom with These Simple Practices

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Spark Your Kids’ Love of the Bible with 3 Simple Habits

July 15, 2016 by Gina Poirier Leave a Comment

Does anyone else feel like there are way too many things competing for kids’ attention these days?

We have a lot of extended family in town, so the kids always make a killing on their birthdays. On my son’s 7th birthday last month he got Legos, Minecraft and a new bike. But he also got a Bible. It’s easy to guess these days which gifts drew the biggest “oohs” and “aahs” from the crowd. And sure enough, the toys got immediate use.

But my husband and have been thrilled in recent weeks to see that, after lights out, our son likes to keep his flashlight on and read. The Bible. The actual full-text Bible, not a storybook or app or anything else.

Is the Word of God something kids can get excited about?

From our experience, yes.

Every child is unique, and their interests are going to vary throughout different ages and stages. I hope and pray that my son’s desire that is sparked now will be a flame that burns for the rest of his life.

But in order for a flame to burn at all there has to be a spark to begin with. And for kids growing up in an increasingly secular culture, it helps when that spark starts young.

Do you want your kids to be interested in the Bible when they start to read? These 3 habits can cultivate that desire starting from infancy (2 Timothy 3:15).

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10 Easy Bible Verses for Kids To Improve Behavior

Do you do memory verses with your kids? What helps your family learn them?

Do you struggle with mom anger? Which of these strategies do you think will be the most helpful for managing your anger in the moment?

I’m failing at parenting. All the time.

Your turn: do you ever feel like you’re failing at parenting? How can you change your perspective?

Positive Parenting Tip: 10 Behavior Words for Preschoolers

Do you use positive parenting behavior words? Share some in the comments or on social media!

Faith for Kids: 3 Ways To Help Them Make It Their Own

5 Ways To Spend More Quality Time with Your Kids

Kids Fighting? 3 Strategies to Strengthen Sibling Relationships

Become a More Patient Mom with These Simple Practices

What do you do to help your kids dig into the Bible?