This week’s practical advice is to go on more dates.
You should go on more dates if you’re married because it’s important to spend quality time creating memories with your spouse. You know, keep that “fire alive.”
You should go on more dates even if you’re not married but are in a serious relationship. Otherwise you might just end up “hanging out” too much–trust me, you have your whole married life to do that. Makes some memories, figure out if this is really gonna work.
You should go on more dates if you have no significant other but wish you did. Obviously. And if you’re a girl, don’t be afraid to ask a guy on a date (just as long as you’re not pursuing him like a whiny puppy or a domineering bulldog for the duration of your relationship. Note that your relationship probably won’t last longer than the first date if you act like a whiny puppy or domineering bulldog).
You should go on more dates even if you have no desire whatsoever to be in a relationship. Go on “dates” with your friends or people you wish you knew better (call them”outings” if “date” sounds awkward). Why? Because everyone needs some form of companionship. Just do stuff you like.
Now there’s the traditional type of date: dinner and a movie or show. But if you’re like us, that can get expensive real quick, especially if you pay for babysitting.
You don’t have to feel like you’re hemorrhaging your hard-earned cash to go on memorable, high-quality dates. Here are some of my favorites:
- Going on a walk. Just last week Marc gave me a tour of the university he went to and reminisced about everything with me. Other times we’ve gone hiking–around waterfalls and mountains and beaches.
- Going for a drive. Previously I wrote about stargazing, which is now a great memory. We’ve seen mountains, forests, oceans and just about everything in our car.
- Going to a local fair or festival. There seem to be all sorts of festivals in the summer. Some are spectacular and some are really strange. They often involve free entertainment, which is always a plus.
- Having a picnic and wine in front of a fire in the fireplace. Okay, that’s technically not “going out” on a date, but it’s still fun and romantic.
- Playing board games. This is Marc’s favorite thing to do with me. We just have to be careful…sometimes we get too competitive and end up arguing. That’s not fun or romantic.
- Taking dancing lessons. Well, that might be fun for you. We’ve tried it multiple times–and we’re terrible dancers. I can’t follow and he can’t lead (hopefully not indicative of a deeper relationship problem). At least we can laugh about it.
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- Going window shopping. We were browsing the china at Neiman Marcus in downtown Chicago just for the heck of it. An employee asked us if we were registering for our wedding. For $200 teacups???? Do I need to find richer friends? Anyway, it’s fun to at least pretend to be in high society…
- “Exploring” somewhere you’ve never been with no real plan. We do this whenever we’re out of town. You either find some really cool stuff or you get completely lost and then laugh about it.
- Going on double or triple dates. Good company always makes for an interesting evening.
What are some of your great date ideas?