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It’s the beginning of the year. And if you’re like many of us, you’re thinking a lot of about New Year’s resolutions and goal-setting ideas. 

I was reluctant to be too committed to things like personal goals and magical words in the past because they felt a bit contrived. I didn’t want to fail. And I didn’t have a practical way to implement my ideas.

But, after giving it a good go with my PowerSheets last year, I’ve been converted. Goals and having a “word of the year” are my jam now. 

My 2019 word is “rhythm.” I’d love to share it with you—what it means and how I chose it.

And in order to do that, first you need to understand my word of the year last year and how my thought process evolved.

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Looking Back on “Connection” in 2018

Last year my word was “connection.” I chose it because in a lot of areas in my life I felt the opposite: disconnected.

To be honest, it was difficult to translate this word into some tangible goals. I did have a few, but they shifted quite a bit over the year. (And this was all fine—good, in fact.)

For example, I started out wanting to focus on each of my kids’ love languages more. That didn’t really happen, but I did make a habit of taking photos each week and worked out a new system of organizing them. As a result, I have one of the better organized and documented years of our family!

“Connection” also led me to some unexpected life lessons that I couldn’t have orchestrated with goals at all. Simply being cognizant of the idea led my heart on journeys I couldn’t have imagined.

One of the biggest lessons I learned was that in order to be connected, you have to be vulnerable. This opens you to pain and suffering, but is also vital to close relationships.

As I spent time over the past few weeks considering where I want my life to go in 2019, I definitely wanted to continue growing in connection. I tossed around some words that were very similar.

But when I looked at what went well last year, a surprisingly different word stood out.

The areas of my life that have worked well include my friendships, family relationships, our homeschooling and my relationship with God. And they all had one thing in common.

Rhythm.

They have been flowing smoothly in my life because I have made room for them. I don’t have to think hard about them because there are systems in place that make them my highest priorities.

In other words, I am able to be more connected with the things that matter most because the rhythms that I have in place enable that connection.

So what will happen if I apply that concept—rhythm—to other areas of my life, especially the ones that need a little help?

Defining Rhythm

When I shared what I was thinking with my husband Marc, he asked me what the difference is between “rhythm” and “routine.”

The answer: everything!

Rhythm: a strong, regular, repeated pattern of movement or sound.

A similar word is cadence. These are terms often associated with music.

Rhythm is spiritual. It reminds me of the natural processes we see in nature: seasons, months, weeks, days. Rhythm is also throughout the Scriptures, set in motion by the creation account in Genesis 1.

The definition of “routine,” in contrast, is: “a sequence of actions regularly followed; a fixed program.”

It’s the difference between a symphony and an accounting spreadsheet. They’re both systematic. But one is a masterpiece. The other is…well, an accounting spreadsheet.

Rhythm is the foundation of any piece of music. Once the rhythm is in place, you have the freedom to improvise and express yourself. But without it…you’re lost.

Another beautiful thing about rhythm is that you can find your way back to it when you get off track, once you know it and internalize it.

My 2019 Goals

So here’s where the theory hits reality. What kinds of goals can I set this year around this abstract concept of rhythm?

Some people say to shoot for big, impossible goals that will stretch you outside of your comfort zone. While I see the value in that, that’s not the direction I believe God is nudging me this year. Instead, I am working on fine-tuning.

I have a lot of great rhythms already in place. My intent is to refine them, rather than completely overhaul them.

I didn’t share my goals at the beginning of the year last year publicly, but this year I’m going to branch out a bit (it also holds me accountable!). My hope is not that you’ll make the same goals yourself, but that they’ll help you think about how to approach this process in your own life.

I have 10 big goals that I want to accomplish this year, but I am primarily going to focus on those I can complete in the next 90 days. Being true to the idea of rhythm, it makes to sense to me to focus on what I can each season, rather than keep up an unsustainable pace for a full year.

The top three goals listed below are my highest priorities (which I hope to accomplish by spring), while the others are in the background.

1. Implement New Home Management System

This one sounds a bit vague, so I’ll explain three ways I’m improving the way I run our household, which will help it run on a smoother rhythm:

First, we were overdue to revamp our meal planning system. I recently got my hands on the Healthy Meal Planning Bundle and have started using a new planning/shopping/prepping system that takes the stress out of making healthy, homemade meals. So this part of the goal is already done, only two weeks into the year!

Second, now that my kids are older I need to get us on a cleaning and home improvement schedule. I wrote out a plan and schedule helps train and engage them, and now we just have to follow through.

Finally, I want to continue to make tweaks and experiment with some other systems that will take a lot of the stress out of running the home. I’m working through this Family Routines e-course from my friend Hilary and want to try some of her amazing tips!

If I can successfully complete the e-course and find that my other systems are working well by March, I’ll consider this goal met.

2. Nurture a Daily Creativity Habit

I’m such a productivity freak (ahem, can you tell?), but after reflecting on what connection has meant to me in the past year, I realized that I want to continue to make space for beauty and creativity in my life.

What this will look like practically is getting into a new rhythm: making space for these things daily. The goal is to spend at least 15 minutes a day doing something that involves beauty, whether that’s playing the piano, reading fiction or listening to music, just for the fun of it.

If I can do this 5/7 days a week for 12 consecutive weeks, I’ll have met this goal. (And even if I don’t hit it, I think I’ll still benefit.)

3. Add to Our Savings Monthly

We have a frustrating rhythm of letting our money fly in and out of the bank account. While we’ve been free of consumer debt for years, I’ve been frustrated about our shallow amount of savings. This year, I’m setting aside our savings first (and putting it in a separate account so that out of sight, out of mind!). I’ve reworked our electronic envelope budgeting system to make this more manageable.

To make this goal even more manageable I’m tracking the habit of reconciling our receipts with our spending envelopes daily.  I’d like to make this habit part of the rhythm of my everyday life.

4. Cultivate More Prayerful Friendships

I’d like to get into the rhythm of praying more with my friends. My goal is to pray with someone outside of my household at least once a week for 12 consecutive weeks.

5. Finish Refreshing Our Bathroom

I’m really bad at updating our home because I don’t often have large chunks of time to work on it. So I’ve taken the approach of getting into a good rhythm with a little progress at a time.

I have several tasks to complete in order to finish updating our master bath. I should be able to finish if I have a few weekends where I have just a couple of hours to focus on it.

6. Have a Garage Sale

This goal is driven by the desire to declutter the house. I feel like our home runs at a much smoother rhythm when we’re not burdened with so much stuff. Whether I have an actual garage sale, sell goods online or donate it all, my goal is to have decluttered the whole house by summer.

7. Double My Blog’s Email Subscriber List

This isn’t just an arbitrary number; based on my current rate of growth this is a stretch, but doable. One of the ways I want to accomplish this is by getting into a smoother rhythm in the ways I produce my content. (I won’t bore you with those details!)

8. Double My Take-Home Income

In addition to running this blog, I also write copy for businesses. I hope that by getting into a good rhythm with my work hours and content strategy this year, I’ll be able to reach this income goal that I’ve been wanting to hit for awhile!

Once I hit this goal, I’ll be in a better position to explore hiring team members and giving more away to families in need.

9. Prepare My Kids for Their Personal Goals

My two oldest boys have a couple of activity and school-related projects that I’m encouraging them to reach this year. By continuing in a consistent rhythm in our homeschool, I hope to assist them in getting there.

10. Read Six Books That Help Me Focus on Rhythm

I have a reading list about a mile long and don’t have a lot of intention about how to tackle it. I decided that if I have “rhythm” as a theme (loosely), I can benefit from some more focused study. Six is a very easy number to hit. We’ll see where it takes me after that.

Currently on my reading list:

Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives by Gretchen Rubin

Discipline: The Glad Surrender by Elisabeth Elliot

The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business by Charles Duhigg

Sabbath Keeping: Finding Freedom in the Rhythms of Rest by Lynne M. Baab

The Practice of the Presence of God by Brother Lawrence

Cozy Minimalist Home: More Style, Less Stuff by Myquillyn Smith

Now it’s your turn: Do you pick a “word of the year”? Do you set goals? I’d love to hear what you’re working on.

Do you want to set goals or choose a word of the year but don’t know where to start? Check out the mini-workbook in my free resource collection.

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So let’s be clear: I think traditional New Year’s resolutions are dumb.

Here’s why: the numbers vary depending on which source you look at, but statistically less than 10 percent of people actually follow through with the ideas they get so excited about come January 1st.

So for the other 90+ percent, what’s the point? For most people, resolutions are just wishful thinking.

For a long time, I just didn’t bother. I figured if I wanted to change something in my life I would just…do it.

And while that works to an extent for me, I nonetheless hit a wall a couple of years ago. I was exhausted and overwhelmed with three small kids, drowning in mental and physical clutter and feeling purposeless. While I didn’t exactly know where I was going, I made a decision at the end of 2015 that I was going to be more intentional with my life:

• I started decluttering my home.
• I turned my hobby blog into a professional one, got certified in stress management coaching and developed a prayer journal and online courses.
• I embraced my purpose in motherhood.
• I started taking better care of myself and embraced biblical rest.
• I started praying powerfully and with purpose.
• I learned how to control my daily schedule rather than letting it control me.

And it all started with a process called goal-setting. A.k.a New Year’s Resolutions—but the kind that I can follow through with because I’m working on them year-round.

So while I still think that New Year’s resolutions as I used to understand them are dumb, when you do them right, they can be incredibly effective and life-changing.

Related: How Moms Can Set Meaningful Goals

I’ve learned a lot about this process of the last several years. There’s a lot of great advice out there, but if I do have one nugget of wisdom to offer about resolutions it’s this:

Choose rest.

While the rest of the world is wrapped up in being skinny and self-improvement and getting rich, imagine if you chose to do something a little different?

Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.
—Matthew 11:28–30.

To rest is to be faithful. To stop and let God fill in the gaps. To trust the Spirit’s guidance. To be content with less…and to feel fuller in the process.

Sound good? Then check out these alternative New Year’s resolution ideas anchored in rest that you can get excited about.

10 Restful New Year’s Resolution Ideas

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1. Follow the Sabbath

It’s an ancient practice: set aside a 24-hour period each week to REST. Up until pretty recently, I had never done this.

But now, I can’t imagine my life without it. From Saturday evening to Sunday evening each week, I let go.

I don’t check my social media or email. I don’t do any household or work projects, even when I know there’s stuff to get done. Instead, I spend time with those I love, I worship and I relax. And I face each week refreshed.

2. Sleep More

Again, up until recently, my mentality was to sleep the minimal amount without feeling completely wrecked each day, to maximize the amount of time I had to get stuff done.

It’s a terrible way to live. I had to adjust my morning and evening routines, but now I regularly get the 8.5 hours a night I need. And of course, I’m way more productive.

Give yourself permission to get more sleep. Go to bed (perhaps earlier) at the same time each night after a relaxing evening routine. Take short power naps during seasons when your nighttime sleep is interrupted. Ask for help taking care of the kids wen you’re feeling run down.

3. Create Meaningful Memories

One thing I have wanted to grow in is being more mentally present with my husband and kids. I want us to look back with memories full of meaning and love.

There are many ways you can approach this. What has worked well for me is getting one-on-one time with one of my kids each week, as well as a date of some kind with my husband every week. I also try to take photos weekly—in everyday life, not just the special occasions. I’ve worked hard to stay on top of my digital photos, which means sorting and editing then within a week of taking them. This makes it much less overwhelming to organize them (and Google Photos is awesome for this!)

4. Cultivate Your Friendships

This is another area I would like to grow in personally. I have great friends, but I want to take those relationships deeper. We’ve been experimenting with the small groups format in our church, so I’m hoping and praying that is how I can work on this.

I know it’s tough for many of us in the season of motherhood because we lack the time. If that’s the case with you, I encourage you to be creative with this resolution.

Be bold and initiate (that other mom is probably lonely too). When you can’t meet, talk on the phone. You might be surprised just how little extra time those friendships can take if you simply take the effort to invest in them.

5. Enrich Your Prayer Life

In the past, this has been a weakness but now I’m proud to say and think is becoming a strength. Over the last couple of years, I have gotten more disciplined and focused and have seen a lot of the fruit.

For me, it took some digging and journaling to get there. Can I suggest starting with this prayer journal?

6. Say No to Your Phone

I think I’m pretty conscious about this, and still, I find myself getting sucked into checking my notifications whenever I get a free second.

Some ways to combat this include setting up screen-free times into your schedule as well as only allowing yourself to check notifications at specific times of the day. Otherwise, it’s all too tempting!

Related: Social Media Addiction: 20 Strategies to Break It

7. Spend Time in Nature

There’s something spiritual about the sky, the sea, the mountains, the fields. As someone who grew up in the Pacific Northwest and now lives in the Midwest, I can find my present opportunities…lacking. But that just means I’m not looking hard enough.

Studies show that being in nature is good for your mental and physical health. So let’s get out there regularly and make it a priority!

Brainstorm some ways you can enjoy nature, whether it’s sitting out on your back deck every day, taking a long walk once a week, or planning a trip out into the wilderness.

8. Explore Healthy Food You LOVE

Weight loss is on the brain for many people at this time of year, and that’s necessarily not a bad thing…but we can go about it the wrong way.

I find that I’m healthiest when I’m not thinking in terms of how I’m limiting myself but rather embracing what I love.

I finally admitted to myself recently that I don’t love salad. Plus no one else in my family likes it. I’ll eat it because I know it’s good for me and that’s enough of a motivator…but I’m a lot more excited about a plethora of other vegetable-rich dishes that I’ve learned how to make in the past year. So rather than forcing myself to limit my food to something I’m not wild about, our family is getting adventurous with healthy, whole foods we love and can be thankful for. See the difference?

What nourishing food can you get excited about discovering in the coming months?

9. Find a Mentor

There’s a phrase that has stuck with me through the years: “You don’t know what you don’t know.” Sometimes you don’t even know what you are doing right or wrong unless you get some perspective.

If you’re feeling stuck in any area of your life, why stay in a rut if the strategies you’re using aren’t working? Get some help: a coach, an advisor, an accountability buddy, a counselor, whatever. It’s biblical and it helps.

10. Practice Gratitude

This is almost too cliché nowadays but I’m gonna write it anyway. Gratitude is proven to change the way you think. Make it stick by writing it down daily.

Okay friends, now it’s your turn: what restful New Year’s Resolutions ideas would you add to the list? And which ones do you want to try this year?

If you want some guidance putting those goals into practice, be sure to check this the mini goal-setting workbook I offer in my free resources collection:

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It’s no secret around here that I’m a big fan of setting goals. 

It’s a concept that many people often associate with their jobs. My husband recently shared with me the goals he was setting for work next year, which mostly related to business growth.

But what about for your personal life? Is it worth it to set goals for just…yourself? And your family?

And furthermore, how does one go about that, exactly?

I’ve been setting personal goals for myself for several years now, and I’ve tried quite a few tools. One of the most unique ones is a workbook called PowerSheets.

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What Are PowerSheets?

PowerSheets are a collection of goal-setting pages in a beautiful workbook. I like to think of them as having a paper life coach. They help you think through your priorities, get a vision and make goals, and then work towards them in practical steps.

Here’s how the Cultivate What Matters shop describes its popular product:

Thousands of women all over the world have made their goals happen with PowerSheets. Created by Lara Casey, best-selling author of Make It Happen and Cultivate: A Grace-Filled Guide to Growing an Intentional Life.

• A proven process that works.
• 12 months of intentional goal-setting worksheets to help you make your goals a reality.
• The signature PowerSheets Prep™️ process to uncover the right goals for your season of life.
• Trusted goal coaching on every page so you stay motivated and on track.
• Exclusive seasonal worksheets to refresh and refocus your goals each season.

Sounds pretty cool, right?

I thought so. So I jumped on the Cultivate wagon last year and dug in. Here’s what was inside.

Getting Started: Brain Dumping and Life Assessment

If you do not know where you come from, then you don’t know where you are, and if you don’t know where you are, then you don’t know where you’re going… – Terry Pratchett

If you’ve ever tried setting goals before, one easy way to get stuck right from the start is having no clue what direction you want your life to go.

So the first step is assessing where you’ve been.

The first several pages in the PowerSheets workbook are life assessment pages. They consist of open-ended questions about your personality, your hopes and dreams, how well the past year went and some ideas for what you want to do in the coming year.

There’s also a lot of open space to get messy, which I always appreciate.

This is one of my favorite parts of the workbook because you have permission to get to know yourself a little better. Why do you think those online personality quizzes are so much fun? I think it’s because we like to understand the way we think and act so that we can make the best use of our preferences and talents.

By knowing your strengths, weaknesses, who you are, how you’re motivated and where you’ve been, the future becomes a lot clearer.

Related: How to Be Motivated: The Four Tendencies from a Biblical Perspective

The next step is to prioritize what’s most important. You start out by thinking about what you want your life to be like when you’re 80 (or so). What’s going to matter most then?

With that in mind, you work your backward. What can you focus on in the coming year that can push you towards that long-term vision?

My only critique is that this timeframe felt like a bit of a stretch. I’ve got 45 years in between now and then!

I personally like to add intermediate steps, such as where I want to be in 5 years, as well as major milestones like when my kids graduate high school. But the PowerSheets workbook provides the space and flexibility to do that.

Choosing a Word of the Year

I’ve heard of people that use a “word of the year,” and honestly I’ve always thought it was a bit hokey. I mean seriously, summarizing an entire year of your life under one banner word or phrase? How is that practical?

But, since I was so impressed with the process already, I decided to run with it.

Based on the personal assessment pages, the word I landed on in 2018 was connection. I felt like it applied to the areas of my life where I was lacking.

Surprisingly, I found it extremely helpful. Not because the word in itself was so amazing, but because with all of the other tools in PowerSheets, I was able to stay rooted in it.

I posted this word in my kitchen where I keep all of my household paperwork. While I didn’t think about it constantly, it was a good visual reminder about my priorities. It was also useful whenever I revisited my PowerSheets on a monthly and quarterly basis.

What surprised me most was how much God led me to grow in connection throughout the year, in ways I didn’t expect or plan. I became more comfortable in getting vulnerable, crying without shame and giving my heart in scary ways.

I didn’t plan to grow in those ways specifically. But I think it’s accurate to say that because I was open to the concept, God worked with it. Pretty cool right?

Getting Intentional with Goal-Setting

After clearing up where you’ve been, where you are and where you want to go in a general sense, the PowerSheets workbook walks you through the nitty-gritty of goal-setting.

To start, you write out ten specific goals you want to work on in the coming year. Then you break them down into smaller steps.

So I’ll be honest; ten goals felt really overwhelming to me. I can’t focus on that many big things at once.

However, the targeting questions in Powersheets help you focus on the most important ones first, based on your current priorities, and then work on others later.

Looking book at the goals I set at the beginning of 2018, I was a little surprised that I only met two of them completely. That hurt my perfectionist heart a little bit.

But that didn’t mean I didn’t accomplish anything! I ended up dropping one of my goals completely, as it didn’t make sense anymore. As for the rest, I made progress significant progress on every one. Furthermore, as the year went on, I got better at defining my goals in a way that was realistic and relevant.

Each quarter in PowerSheets, you either recommit to your original goals or change them. As life shifts, so does your focus.

Overall, what really impressed me was that the process helped me appreciate the journey more than the destination. This phrase is repeated throughout the workbook:

Staying Focused Day After Day, Week After Week, Month After Month

You know how it goes; you can get really excited about making some big changes and focusing on goals at the beginning of the year, only to lose momentum after a month or two. You then spend the majority of the year drifting through life, until you start all over again.

To combat this tendency, the PowerSheets workbook has the tools to keep you focused on your goals all year long:

• Seasonal reflection: Every three months, you can hit the “reset” button on your goals and on your life, as you monitor your long-term progress.
• Monthly reflection: Before you make your plans each month, you can reflect on how the last month went. You also look at your big goals and prioritize what you want to focus on next. There’s lots of space for brain-dumping so that you can clear the clutter and let go of the things you’re worried about that won’t really matter in the long-run.
• Tending list: This is a perforated sheet that you can tear out and keep wherever it’s convenient. You keep track of your progress, including monthly goals, weekly goals and daily goals that help you work towards your big goals.

This system is brilliant. It’s simple, not overwhelming, and motivating all year long.

I admit, I wasn’t a perfect student using the tending list. I’d sometimes go over a week without glancing at it. Nevertheless, it still kept me a lot more focused than I would have been without it.

Another cool thing about the PowerSheets workbook is that it is not a daily calendar planner.

Say what?!?

I love this because it’s versatile enough to use with the planner of your choice. I use a combination of Google Calendar and bullet journaling, and PowerSheets help me get the most out of them. (I explain my planning system more in the Ultimate Time Management Guide for Moms.)

However, this can be a bit of a downer if you’re looking for an all-in-one planning system. Purchasing a nice planner in addition to PowerSheets can get expensive and take up a lot of space.

Additional Features

Beyond the very thorough worksheets, you get several other perks with PowerSheets:

• A beautiful design and stickers galore: This is not a big deal to me, but if fun and colorful aesthetics are important to you, you won’t be disappointed.
• Wildcard pages: You can download customizable pages to insert into your PowerSheets, including budget pages, meal plans, grocery lists, health worksheets…you name it! I didn’t really take full advantage of these but would like to try more of them in the future.
• Support community: There’s an active PowerSheets Facebook group with over 12,000 members. So if you feel stuck or unmotivated you can just pop in there for two seconds. The Cultivate What Matters team also has a lot of resources that help you get the most out of your workbook.

Are PowerSheets Worth It?

It’s obvious that I’m fan. But are PowerSheets a good choice for everyone?

The one-year PowerSheets workbook is not cheap, at $58 plus taxes and shipping. If your budget is tight, you may need to save up or ask for one as a gift.

To get the most out of it, you also should make a commitment to actually use it. And I’m not gonna lie; it takes time. 

I personally need several hours to complete the assessment worksheets at the beginning of the workbook, and about an hour or two each month as I reflect on my progress.

PowerSheets are not for you if you’re not committed to investing time, energy and money in your personal growth. They are not magical and will not help you if you’re not willing to do the difficult work of self-examination, setting goals and following through.

If you’re the type of person who buys cool things but doesn’t use them, then you might want to think twice before ordering. Make sure you’re ready to put in the work.

PowerSheets are for you if you’re eager to live more intentionally and are committed to the investment that process takes.

Not Quite Ready for PowerSheets?

If you’re intrigued by the goal-setting process but not ready to invest, you may like the simple goal-setting workbook that you can download from my collection of free resources. This can point in the direction of living more intentionally until you’re ready to take the next step.

Leave a comment: What do you think about PowerSheets? Do you have any more questions about them?