One of the upsides of 2020 having a lot of “downtime” (albeit nonetheless quite busy for those of us with kids at home) was that there was more time to read. While I’m not a bibliophile who reads 100+ books a year, I do enjoy diving into other people’s words for at least a few minutes on most days.

I also like talking about books, and so I figured, why not do that here on my blog? Perhaps you’ll be inspired, perhaps you’ll think my tastes are weird; I’m not too swayed either way. I like what I like.

Related: Must-Read Books for Christian Moms: My Recommended Reading List

Disclosure: this post may contain affiliate links, which won’t change your price but will share some commission. See here for more information.

A Note on My Approaches to My Reading Life

Some people make goals for how many books they want to read in a year. While there’s value in that if you find that motivating, I only like to do it if I have a good reason to. For example, one of my 2021 goals is to dig into the prophets, and so I’d like to (loosely) read at least one related theology book per quarter.

Otherwise, I don’t set reading goals for a couple of reasons. First, it makes reading more of a chore than I’d like it to be. Second, I have no problem with leaving a book unfinished if I don’t enjoy it. I could hypothetically pick up 50 bad books in a year and not finish one of them, and that would be okay with me.

I read more than 10 books in 2020, but these are the ones that stood out to me most. I didn’t finish a few more!

Some people also like to know what medium I prefer for books: hard copy, digital or audio. The answer: all of them! Sometimes it depends what I can get my hands on from the digital library or my Scribd subscription, or if I get a good deal. It also depends on the genre; I love hearing fiction and lighter reads on audio so I can listen while multi-tasking, while with heavier reads I require text so I can highlight, reread, etc.

Okay, with no further ado, here are my favorite reads from 2020, divided into categories.

Theology

The Day the Revolution Began by N.T. Wright

I picked up this book because I have become a huge N.T. Wright fan in recent years. This isn’t his easiest book to read, but it’s not his hardest either. It does get a little repetitive, but I actually liked that because it helped me internalize the bigger points of the book.

This book summarizes a lot of what he has written elsewhere about the full meaning of Christ’s atonement. He challenges the popular idea along the lines that “Jesus stepped into the sinner’s place to take on the punishment they deserve” and offers a much more robust and biblically supported case for the beautiful and powerful ritual that Jesus’ death on the cross represents.

The Beast That Crouches at the Door by Rabbi David Fohrman

This was a fascinating account of the fall of mankind from a renowned American Rabbi, recommended in one of my favorite theology podcasts, BEMA. Fohrman presents the story we’ve all heard a million times about the serpent, the temptation and the murder of Abel and leads the reader through a series of questions they’ve probably never thought before.

This was the freshest look at the early chapters of Genesis that I’ve read in a long time. It helped me see the relationship between God and mankind in a whole new light.

Self-Improvement

The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

I’d seen her TED talk and even her Netflix special, as well as her quotes on social media, but I never actually read Brene Brown’s work until fairly recently.

It was good. Really good.

I appreciate her dedication to research as well as her articulate and humorous communication skills. This book spoke to me personally as a perfectionist, since it demonstrated just how powerful our “weaknesses” are in making us fully human. (And it’s not a big stretch to see how her research is backed up by biblical teaching, when you examine it.)

The Happiness Dare by Jennifer Dukes Lee

I was surprised at how much I enjoyed this book. I had heard of it a few years ago but never got around to it. Perhaps I was skeptical that it was going to be a feel-good Christianese read, which I have very little interest in these days.

For whatever reason (I think it popped up on my audiobook suggestions), I finally delved in and was delighted by the author’s easygoing writing style. She challenges the idea that Christians aren’t meant to be happy and presents several different ways we can approach and understand happiness. The lessons stuck with me—my “Happiness Style” is “doer.”

Introverted Mom: Your Guide to More Calm, Less Guilt, and Quiet Joy by Jamie C. Martin

My main response to reading this book was, “I feel seen.”

I have studied a lot about introversion and personality types over the years and am aware of this tendency in myself, yet I still found this book to be remarkably refreshing and affirming. The author offers some very practical insight to how to not only cope with introversion as a mom, but thrive in it.

The Ministry of Ordinary Places by Shannan Martin

This title of this book is almost misleading; it is NOT a “feel-good” read about how you should be happy just as things are and embrace your day-to-day existence. That depends on what your day-to-day existence looks like.

This book could easily fall under the next category of my reading list (“social awareness”). The author’s day-to-day existence is in an urban working class neighborhood, and her days are filled with hosting drug addicts, school drop-outs and literally people of every nation. While that might not be everyone’s reality, her challenge is to seek out those who are marginalized in your ordinary places, and to make that your ministry.

Social Awareness

White Picket Fences: Turning toward Love in a World Divided by Privilege by Amy Julia Becker

With all of the social upheaval of 2020 in the U.S., I dedicated myself to more education about privilege, culture, race and class divisions. This book is a memoir from a white, middle class woman’s perspective, trying to bridge the gap between the world she grew up in and, well, the rest of the world.

I appreciate the author’s humility in this book. She’s not offering answers; she just asks a lot of good questions. Her experience raising a child with significant special needs gives her a unique perspective about approaching differences in a more compassionate way.

The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness by Michelle Alexander

I confess that I probably wouldn’t have read this book if a friend of mine hadn’t invited me to an online study group. But wow. This should be required reading for anyone who wants to be educated in American history, socioeconomics or public policy. Even if you don’t agree with all of Alexander’s conclusions, you cannot argue with her compelling research about the damage that the war on drugs and the U.S. approach to incarceration has done to Black communities.

Get Money Do Good by J.D. Vermaas

A friend of a friend asked me to review this book as part of its independent launch. I was in early pregnancy at the time (i.e. exhausted) and thus fell waaaaay behind. But I did eventually finish the book, and its compelling story still sticks with me.

It’s a crazy-sounding but true story about a couple with a gift for making a lot of money and also a strong drive to use that money to fight poverty and “do good.” They end up adopting…let’s just say A LOT of kids. The book challenges the reader to think outside the box when it comes to wealth. I appreciate how it doesn’t sugarcoat the tough realities about international adoption. It also demonstrates how children with trauma and special needs don’t need to be fixed or rescued; like anyone, they need love and an opportunity to shine.

Fiction

The Sisters Grimm Series by Michael Buckley

Wow, I really didn’t read much fiction last year! It was mostly accomplished during read-aloud time with my kids.

And that’s where the Sisters Grimm comes in. We actually started this series a couple of years ago and came back around to it. Imagine that all the fairy tale characters from around the world are real and live immortally in a small town in upstate New York.

And two girls, who are descendants of the Brothers Grimm, are learning how to be “fairy tale detectives.” They eventually carry the responsibility of saving the world from magic-induced chaos.

It’s no Harry Potter, but this series was a lot of fun. We all enjoyed it when stuck at home for much of the year.

What I’m Reading Next…

I always have a ton of books on my “to read” list, and here are a few that are currently loaded on my devices or sitting on my nightstand.

Emma by Jane Austin: I listen to this on audio whenever I need a British chick lit infusion.

An American Marriage by Tayari Jones: A heart-wrenching story about love torn apart by racial injustice.

The Powerful Purpose of Introverts by Holley Gerth: A follow-up read recommended by Jamie C. Martin.

Fall in Love with God’s Word: Practical Strategies for Busy Women by Brittany Ann: This is the first book by a friend of mine from Equipping Godly Women, and I’m honored to be on her launch team.

All the Feels: Discover Why Emotions Are (Mostly) Awesome and How to Untangle Them When They’re Not by Elizabeth Laing Thompson: I have all the feels about this book.

All Things to All People—The Power of Cultural Humility by Michael Burns: I am mostly through this book and have been listening to Michael Burns’ podcast. I highly recommend it for church small groups.

The Prophetic Imagination by Walter Brueggemann: I am studying the prophets this year, and Brueggemann is kind of the man when it comes to the prophets. It’s dense, but I think I like it.

Interested in more about what I’m reading? You can also follow me on Goodreads (though honestly I’m not very disciplined about keeping it current or leaving detailed reviews there).

What have you read or what are you looking forward to reading next?

For the last several years now, I’ve chosen a “word of the year” as part of my annual goal-planning process.

While I haven’t always posted my word on my website, I thought it would be helpful to do so again this year…for posterity, if nothing else. What’s more, quite a few people have expressed interest in this process and find inspiration in other people’s words. So here you go.

In previous years, my words have been:

• 2018: Connection
• 2019: Rhythm
• 2020: Freedom

Ready for this year’s word? Drumroll please…

2021 Word of the Year: Rooted

Disclosure: this post may contain affiliate links, which won’t change your price but will share some commission. See here for more information.

Why Choose a Word of the Year?

While I resisted this practice for a long time, I finally came around when I discovered that it is helpful to have something to focus on when I’m making plans and setting goals.

I keep my word somewhere visible, like on my phone’s lock screen, stuck to the refrigerator or in the front of my journal. Whenever I sit down to work on my goals, it reminds me about what’s important (and also what’s not).

You can learn more about my planning and goal-setting processes and tools here:

How Moms Can Set Meaningful Goals (with Examples!)

Are PowerSheets Worth It for Planning Goals? An Honest Review

The Ultimate Time Management Guide for Moms

How I Chose “Rooted”

I spent some time at the end of 2020 reflecting, journaling and praying. (And what a year it was to reflect on!). Using the prompts in my PowerSheets Goal Planner, I assessed what worked well for me last year, what didn’t, and what’s important to me going forward.

2020 will be remembered by many as a year of chaos and uncertainty, and it was all the more so for our family. Not only did we have the stress of the pandemic and the social and political instability that many faced, but we also brought home a long-awaited adopted child from overseas and then found out I was unexpectedly pregnant a few months later.

The word “rooted” reminds me of stability and perseverance. I think of old trees that withstand chaos like storms and drought. They might lose branches and take a beating from time to time, but if they’re deeply rooted, they still stand.

It’s not surprising to me that Bible contains abundant metaphors of plants and roots, in both the Old and New Testaments. A quick word study revealed a pattern: being rooted in good things leads to good fruit.

I chose a theme scripture to memorize: “So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live your lives in him, rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness” (Colossians 2:6–7).

My hope is that everything I do this year is rooted in love, beauty and truth (all of which are embodied in Christ himself). I will strive to maintain that focus as I work toward my personal goals.

My Big Goals for 2021

In general, I don’t like to get too specific about goals more than about 90 days out. Many productivity experts suggest that quarterly goals are more effective than annual ones anyway, since we humans apparently have short attention spans.

This year, I whittled down my ambitions to what might be more appropriately called focus areas or themes. (I talk about this in more detail in the Take a Deep Breath video series, if you’re interested.) I wrote out a general statement about how I want to focus on each area.

1. Build an Emergency Fund
2. Beautify Our Home
3. Grow Deeper with God
4. Empower My Kids’ Growth
5. Help My Online Platform to Flourish

If you look closely, you can see these words can be easily linked to the idea of being rooted in love, beauty and truth.

Now, if you’re a fan of systems like S.M.A.R.T goals, don’t cringe because I’m not done. Using these larger ideas and the word “rooted” as guidance, I set “micro” goals and chose habits to work on in 90 days or less.

Micro Goals and Habit Ideas for 2021

With my focus areas in mind, I brainstormed more specific goal ideas and action steps. I’ll share some of them in categories below. I’ve simplified my lists so that I don’t bore anyone (and plus there’s some personal information I’d rather keep private). Hopefully you’ll get the idea.

Build an Emergency Fund

• Track budget daily
• Talk with Marc about budget in weekly/monthly meetings
• Monthly income goals
• Monthly savings goals, increasing as year progresses

Beautify Our Home

• Organize different areas of the home (listed out)
• Minor updates in various rooms (listed out)
• Prepare for new baby action items (listed out)

Grow Deeper with God

• Study the book of Ezekiel, possibly other prophets
• Read one theology book/quarter
• Daily prayer/meditation
• Record Spirit-led acts of generosity each month

Empower My Kids’ Growth

• Weekly family game nights
• Help kids study for “Memory Masters” in our homeschool program
• Explore my daughter’s options for preschool and/or therapy
• Quarterly nature adventure
• Assist kids in county fair 4-H projects

Help My Online Platform Flourish

• Run new Facebook ads to cold audience
• Run new Facebook ads to warm audience
• Reach 10,000 email subscribers
• Prepare 6 weeks of maternity leave content
• Minor website updates
• 2 new blog posts/month
• Major website redesign

Once I finished brainstorming, I chose the items that I will focus on in the first quarter, and then I loosely scheduled out what I want to focus on each month.

I’ll track my goals and habits as I go, do a minor reassessment each month, and then do a major reassessment after the first quarter. At that point, I’ll add, adjust or remove goals based on my priorities at that time.

Summing It Up

If you’ve never done something like this before, I know it can look a little overwhelming. Just remember that I’ve practiced this process a lot, and what I came up with this year is what works for me. It has also evolved over time.

I shared quite a few resources in this post if you’d like to do something similar. Beyond that, if you’re not already subscribed, be sure to sign up for resources to help you live more intentionally this year and beyond:

So let’s be clear: I think traditional New Year’s resolutions are dumb.

Here’s why: the numbers vary depending on which source you look at, but statistically less than 10 percent of people actually follow through with the ideas they get so excited about come January 1st.

So for the other 90+ percent, what’s the point? For most people, resolutions are just wishful thinking.

For a long time, I just didn’t bother. I figured if I wanted to change something in my life I would just…do it.

And while that works to an extent for me, I nonetheless hit a wall a few years ago. I was exhausted and overwhelmed with three small kids, drowning in mental and physical clutter and feeling purposeless. While I didn’t exactly know where I was going, I made a decision at the end of 2015 that I was going to be more intentional with my life:

• I started decluttering my home.
• I turned my hobby blog into a professional one, got certified in stress management coaching and developed digital products.
• I embraced my purpose in motherhood.
• I started taking better care of myself and embraced biblical rest.
• I started praying powerfully and with purpose.
• I learned how to control my daily schedule rather than letting it control me.

And it all started with a process called goal-setting. A.k.a New Year’s Resolutions—but the kind that I can follow through with because I’m working on them year-round.

So while I still think that New Year’s resolutions as I used to understand them are dumb, when you do them right, they can be incredibly effective and life-changing.

Related: How Moms Can Set Meaningful Goals

I’ve learned a lot about this process of the last several years. There’s a lot of great advice out there, but if I do have one nugget of wisdom to offer about resolutions it’s this:

Choose rest.

While the rest of the world is wrapped up in being skinny and self-improvement and getting rich, imagine if you chose to do something a little different?

Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.
—Matthew 11:28–30.

To rest is to be faithful. To stop and let God fill in the gaps. To trust the Spirit’s guidance. To be content with less…and to feel fuller in the process.

Sound good? Then check out these alternative New Year’s resolution ideas anchored in rest that you can get excited about.

10 Restful New Year’s Resolution Ideas

Photo credit: Cristian Escobar

1. Practice Sabbath

It’s an ancient practice: set aside a 24-hour period each week to REST. Up until pretty recently, I had never done this.

But now, I can’t imagine my life without it. One day a week, I do my best to let go.

I don’t check my social media or email. I don’t do any household or work projects, even when I know there’s stuff to get done. Instead, I spend time with those I love, I worship and I relax. And I face each week refreshed.

2. Sleep More

Again, up until recently, my mentality was to sleep the minimal amount without feeling completely wrecked each day, to maximize the amount of time I had to get stuff done.

It’s a terrible way to live. I had to adjust my morning and evening routines, but now I regularly get the 8.5 hours a night I need. And of course, I’m way more productive.

Give yourself permission to get more sleep. Go to bed (perhaps earlier) at the same time each night after a relaxing evening routine. Take short power naps during seasons when your nighttime sleep is interrupted. Ask for help taking care of the kids wen you’re feeling run down.

3. Create Meaningful Memories

One thing I have wanted to grow in is being more mentally present with my husband and kids. I want us to look back with memories full of meaning and love.

There are many ways you can approach this. What has worked well for me is getting one-on-one time with one of my kids each week, as well as a date of some kind with my husband every week. I also try to take photos weekly—in everyday life, not just the special occasions. I’ve worked hard to stay on top of my digital photos, which means sorting and editing then within a week of taking them. This makes it much less overwhelming to organize them.

4. Cultivate Your Friendships

This is another area I’ve grown in recently. Even during the recent social distancing period, I’ve been grateful to have deep friendships and great conversations

I know it’s tough for many of us in the season of motherhood because we lack the time. If that’s the case with you, I encourage you to be creative with this resolution.

Be bold and initiate (that other mom is probably lonely too). When you can’t meet, talk on the phone. You might be surprised just how little extra time those friendships can take if you simply take the effort to invest in them.

5. Enrich Your Prayer Life

In the past, this has been a weakness but now I’m proud to say and think is becoming a strength. Over the last couple of years, I have gotten more disciplined and focused and have seen a lot of the fruit.

For me, it took some digging and journaling to get there. Can I suggest starting with this prayer journal?

6. Say No to Your Phone

I think I’m pretty conscious about this, and still, I find myself getting sucked into checking my notifications whenever I get a free second.

Some ways to combat this include setting up screen-free times into your schedule as well as only allowing yourself to check notifications at specific times of the day. Otherwise, it’s all too tempting!

Related: Social Media Addiction: 20 Strategies to Break It

7. Spend Time in Nature

There’s something spiritual about the sky, the sea, the mountains, the fields. As someone who grew up in the Pacific Northwest and now lives in the Midwest, I can find my present opportunities…lacking. But that just means I’m not looking hard enough.

Studies show that being in nature is good for your mental and physical health. So let’s get out there regularly and make it a priority!

Brainstorm some ways you can enjoy nature, whether it’s sitting out on your back deck every day, taking a long walk once a week, or planning a trip out into the wilderness.

8. Explore Healthy Food You LOVE

Weight loss is on the brain for many people at this time of year, and that’s necessarily not a bad thing…but we can go about it the wrong way.

I find that I’m healthiest when I’m not thinking in terms of how I’m limiting myself but rather embracing what I love.

I finally admitted to myself that I don’t love salad. Plus no one else in my family likes it much. I’ll eat it because I know it’s good for me and that’s enough of a motivator…but I’m a lot more excited about a plethora of other vegetable-rich dishes that I’ve learned how to make. So rather than forcing myself to limit my food to something I’m not wild about, our family is getting adventurous with healthy, whole foods we love and can be thankful for. See the difference?

What nourishing food can you get excited about discovering in the coming months?

9. Find a Mentor

There’s a phrase that has stuck with me through the years: “You don’t know what you don’t know.” Sometimes you don’t even know what you are doing right or wrong unless you get some perspective.

If you’re feeling stuck in any area of your life, why stay in a rut if the strategies you’re using aren’t working? Get some help: a coach, an advisor, an accountability buddy, a counselor, whatever. It’s biblical and it helps.

10. Practice Gratitude

This is almost too cliché nowadays but I’m gonna write it anyway. Gratitude is proven to change the way you think. Make it stick by writing it down daily.

Okay friends, now it’s your turn: what restful New Year’s Resolutions ideas would you add to the list? And which ones do you want to try this year?

If you want some guidance putting those goals into practice, be sure to check this the mini goal-setting workbook I offer in my free resources collection: